Podcasts and Articles
Take These Ashes with Heather Lobe Johnson
Processing Grief and Hard Emotions
The New Testament calls God "the God of all comfort," and mourning is often the path to comfort. Heather and I talk about the need to look our hard emotions in the face instead of "lily padding": addressing behaviors/symptoms of spiritual issues on the surface, rather than getting to their root causes. This is was a highly personal and healing conversation, which we hope will give other women courage to befriend their feelings. Click to listen.
Not My Story with Sarah Westfall
Friendship Ministry, Born through Failure
Writer Sarah Westfall's podcast is devoted to conversations with people whose faith was tested in an unexpected turning point. Sarah and I discuss how a painful friendship failure was the doorway to the greatest season of spiritual growth in my life. This was also the soil from which my book on friendship eventually grew. We talk about emotional safety, vulnerability and the difference between being authentic and being foolishly unguarded. Click to listen.
Journey of a Fearless Female with Paola Rosser
Breaking the Chains of Co-dependency
The most comprehensive interview I've ever given on co-dependency! What is it, what causes it, why don't we recognize it, and how can it destroy our lives and relationships? Paola and her co-host ask some great questions and we swap war stories about people pleasing and exiting toxic situations. You may find yourself wanting to examine some of the ways you seek comfort through people pleasing, or neglect your own needs in order to help and rescue others. Click to listen.
Vibrant Christian Living
Cultivating Authentic Friendships
Christian mindset coach Alicia Michelle and I talk about what keeps women from being real in their friendships, and how to be God-honoring in the way we share our feelings with each other. If you want to get to know the major themes of my book, All My Friends Have Issues, this is a great summary. Click to listen.
Minimalish with Desirae Endress
(now Living with Intention Podcast)
Simple Steps to Finding Friendship in the Season of Motherhood
How does living a minimalist life relate to friendship? Both are about consciously editing what we collect -- whether it be tasks, possessions or relationships. The delightful Desirae and I talk about simplifying the process of making friends as a mother of young children, and why the choices we make in friendship are so critical to our well-being as moms. Click to listen.
Uncharted with Ines Franklin and Andy Lara
Walking in Exile
The most vulnerable I have ever been on stage or the internet! I pour out the pain I felt in the last four years as a Christian who often votes Democrat; what it has felt like to be judged and hated; and how I have mourned that people on the other side felt similarly unsafe in conversations with friends and family. Ultimately this conversation is trying to bridge the gap between Christians on both sides of the political aisle by discerning between political beliefs (what is the function of government) and Christian beliefs (how are we to live like Jesus) -- and recognizing that the issues on both the Left and the Right matter to Christ. Click to listen.
faithgateway online magazine
I'd Like to Speak to the Manager About Myself
....I’m recognizing that when I ask the question, “What would make this better?” what I’m often really asking is, “What would make this better for me?” And I simply am not the most important person in any scenario.
I’m also noticing that in both our critical-thinking conversations and my inner dialogue, there’s always a nebulous “they” who we assume has just not thought things through. “They” exist in the home owner’s association, the coffee house we frequent, the grocery store, the Senate, even the church. But I realize, having been in a number of those leadership positions myself, that leaders spend a lot of time problem solving. What seems to me a simple thing “they” should have thought about probably has a lot of moving parts I haven’t even considered.
So, I’d like to speak to the manager about myself. Click here to read the full article.
I'm So Sensitive
Most of us are initially defensive when we learn we have hurt someone. But I have begun to gauge the health of a friendship by how fast we are able to push past the situation, and own our stuff, in the context of conflict.
As my girlfriends and I get healthier and come to trust each other more, the “I’m sorry's” happen more quickly. But just as the one-week rule gives us time to decide if it’s necessary to mention a slight or injury, we also allow the one-week rule for the “offender” to be ready to come back with a sincere apology. Click here to read the full article.
The MOPS International Blog
Two Years Sober: A Lesson in Strength
A buzz does not take the place of a boundary. The first two weeks that I was totally sober, I noticed that my children have bad table manners. Without the slight blurring of the edges that a nice glass of wine does to the nervous system, I didn’t notice or care so much that my kids were eating salad with their fingers instead of their forks. Sober, I realized I had power over this problem: I could train my kids to eat like humans.
This was the first instance in which I realized that I used alcohol to tolerate unpleasant or unhealthy things that were happening in my presence. Drinking, I could stay in a really unhealthy conversation at a family function. But for the last two years, sober, I felt the full inappropriateness or unkindness of things being said around me, and recognized that I had the choice to leave the room, or possibly even the gathering. Click here to read the full blog.
Guest blog on "Really" with Elisa Morgan
[In recovery] I learned to practice what had been preached in the church sanctuaries I'd been in just about every Sunday since childhood. I learned to surrender to and trust God. But first, shockingly, I learned the ways I did not trust him; and I learned to process the reason why. Irony of ironies, codependency hasn't been added to my roster of "issues." Instead diagnosis and the process of 12-step helped me drop "anxious and depressed" off the roster. It was the healing I didn't know I needed.
So now, I take the label proudly: I'm Amanda, and I'm a codependent in recovery. And I experience daily one of the promises of the program that we read in every meeting: I feel genuinely lovable, loving and loved. Click here to read the full blog
Hope for Women Magazine
Admitting the Flaws Others Already See
I remember the first time the same idea occurred to me many years ago: that my concealed character defects weren’t so concealed after all. I had been doing some soul searching, and realized I was kind of a glory hound. I’m a quilter, and I love to show love for friends and family by sewing them special things. But I also like to give the quilts away in front of an audience. I’m attached to the “oohs” and “aahs” of recognition. It hurt me to admit this to myself; I was ashamed of it.
But believing that bringing it into the light would help me grow, I went to two friends and admitted it. Both friends said, “You know, I already knew that about you.” Click here to read the full article.